Loving Mistakes

I worded this purposefully; "Loving Mistakes".

Because in the joyful eccentricity of our shared language, dear reader, this could mean many things. It could (possibly) mean:

1. The mistakes are lovingly made.
2. Someone is loving their mistakes.
3. The mistakes are, in fact, loving.

I'm sure there's more than that, if you think about it. Maybe squint your eyes a little.
Polyamory is like that.

It can mean many things. 

My forays into the wild world of non-traditional relationships have been a multitude of things.
I'd like to share with you my Loving Mistakes.

I'm going to let you interpret that phrase how you will. I will suggest you read this first, before you make your choice.

In the past year, I have learned:

Sometimes people will falsify friendship with you in order to get closer to your partner. This doesn't make them a bad person. How they handle misconstrued love, however, might cause backlash.

Polyamorous is not synonymous with "easy lay", but it is shocking how often it is understood as a legitimate method by which to cheat.

Compersion and jealousy can co-exist. This only makes you human.

How deeply I am able to love has been defined by non monogamy. I love more now, I love deeper now, I am less afraid of the crowd. 

I learned to trust. I am still learning.

I made the biggest commitment of my life in the form of a Domestic Partnership on the 8th anniversary of my mother's death (March 15th, 2016). This was made possible by my prior point on deep love.

Sometimes another partner will want to be the primary. They will want to be "on parr". If they demand this, they do not understand Equity vs. Equality in relationships.

What is Equitable is not always Equal.

Sometimes, even if a partner intellectually understands a non mongamous relationship structure, they will not be able to reconcile what that means emotionally.

This does not make them a bad person.

I have less sympathy, but more empathy. I think empathy is more important. I am still more sympathetic than I have been.

I have to trust in my belief. I have to be honest. I have to uphold the standards I claim, and practice what I preach.

Kink is not shameful. Kink is not shameful. I will not be shamed. I need to be honest.

I have friends that really, really love me.

Sergio really, really loves me. Me. My soul. And I, his. I am beautiful for the first time, because of him.

Goodnight and good luck with your own Loving Mistakes.